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How We Experience Race Part 3: Institutionalized…?

Tod and I go into more detail about the term “Institutionalized Rasism” and talk about a few concrete examples of how it looks and what effects it has.

Questions that come to mind are:

Who sets policy and guidelines for content for educational materials? How could that person being aware of the implications of the content that they are producing make a difference in this process?

Think about the prison system; the educational system; political system; the economic system: What positions and roles can contribute to positive change regarding the postures and attitudes that these systems assume in how they develop and implement policy?

I look forward to hearing from you!


How We Experience Race

I’m here with my brother, Tod Ewing, talking about how our generations interact with race differently and how some things are quite the same…enjoy!


Complexity and Storytelling

Aaron and I conclude our conversation on Storytelling, Dichotomies and Complexity with some reflections of character development and archetypes used in stories. Hope you’ve enjoyed this series, and more to come soon! Enjoy!


More on Storytelling

Here Aaron and I continue to go into storytelling and how dichotomies can make stories less valuable, and some commentary on Oak’s dress…


Perception Part 2

Here Aaron closes out this portion of the conversation from the last post…next week, we go into news and storytelling!


How We See the World Around Us: Perception

In this post, Aaron and I talk through some perceptions that one can have about the world around us…Enjoy!

NOTE: I make mention of an event in the post regarding the Bible, you can read more about it here.

 


How We See the World: Comfort with Ambiguity Part 2

Yates and I continue our conversation from last post and talk about how we try to separate parts of our lives…perhaps to our folly…Enjoy!


How We See the World: Comfort with Ambiguity

Aaron and I continue our discussion into the realm of perceptions of success and failure…Enjoy!…but as you enjoy, consider these questions:

Where do elements of ambiguity come up in your experience on the day-to-day?

How do you reconcile such ambiguity with what you’ve learned about things being black or white?

How can we nurture each other along to think beyond feelings of failure, limitation or weakness as we move along in this learning process?


How We See the World: Pick a Side?

Here, Aaron and I talk a little further about having to pick between supposed polar opposites in a continuation from this post.


Finance: Identifying One’s Path

In a continuation from our last Finance post, Colby talks a little about finding one’s path, and ways that one can approach career and education…Enjoy!


How We See the World: Dichotomies

Aaron Yates and I begin a discussion on how the way we approach or break down parts of life can be both useful and counterproductive…


Finance: Education and Purpose

In this short post, Colby and I discuss approaching higher education, and the implications of choices going in…

What would you do differently if you had it to do over? If you’re at the point of transition from high school to college, what’s your sense of purpose for the next few years?


Finance: Accumulating Wealth and Self-Reliance

Here, Colby and I have a back and forth about how we look at money(as a means or an end), and explore some possible healthy postures surrounding gaining more wealth and saving where it counts.

To my atheist and agnostic family: God gets mentioned here. It’s not to exclude you or create discomfort…that’s just where we’re coming from on that. There are other valid sources of inspiration to serve one’s fellow man, I know.

I look forward to hearing your thoughts. Enjoy!


Finance: Wealth and Poverty Part 2

Here, Colby and I finish out this part of the Finance conversation, which is a continuation of Wealth and Poverty and Religion and Culture. It has been quite fun hearing folks’ thoughts on these last couple posts! Enjoy!


Finance: Wealth and Poverty

Here, I go into some of the postures and attitudes surrounding the conversation on wealth and poverty, which is a continuation from the last video post on Religion and Culture…Enjoy!


Finance in the US: Religion and Culture

Here Colby describes some of the influencing ideas that shaped the way the US approaches work and sharing resources…


Finance – Avoiding Debt Part 3: Credit Cards

Here we have a continuation of “Avoiding Debt”, Part 1 and Part 2, dealing specifically with credit cards. Colby and I explore some of the implications of credit to one’s future…


Finance – Avoiding Debt Part 2: Education

Continuation from Part 1. Colby goes further into the issue of going into debt and things to consider regarding pursuing higher education and its costs…


Finance: Avoiding Debt Part 1

Colby and I begin a conversation on some elements of our financial experience that empower or hinder us, and habits that might improve that condition…


Community and Trust

A number of previous posts written here were on the subject of community and human nature. It seems pertinent to draw some of those concepts to some current affairs such as the Trayvon Martin killing and the murder of James Craig Anderson amongst many others. Many would attribute tragedies such as these to a rising race or class war, but I feel that there are larger principles at play that we may benefit from considering before we blame these actions of individuals on an overly-superficial analysis of what’s going on.

As some of the discussion in previous posts on race explores, it’s very easy to point the finger at familiar terms such as “race” or “class” when I feel that “trust” among us as individuals and a community is the element has to be considered. Many of us have been led to believe that people outside our blood family are not to be trusted, and that people will likely take advantage of us at every opportunity given the opportunity.

Obviously I generalize, but I believe that most will agree that some degree of suspicion is common in our experience and training about survival in today’s world:

Don’t trust the cops.
Don’t trust the people.
Don’t trust people wealthier than you.
Don’t trust people poorer than you.
Don’t trust people of other religions.
Don’t trust business people.
Don’t trust customers.
Don’t trust women.
Don’t trust men.

Messages like these were often unspoken rules that I assimilated to, and doubt that others are immune to these subtle but ever-present messages we send each other through how we behave and talk to each other and the messages we consume in our media.

The thing is, I’ve had so many places in my life that informed me through experience that people are very much worthy of trust…in fact, we don’t get what we need in life as far as diversity of human interaction and experience without it. Further, people want to trust and be trusted. When you watch a movie, who do you generally gravitate towards and root for? Is it the self-serving bully who takes advantage of those weaker than them or the noble champion who grows through their hard-work and challenges to move higher and higher in their understanding?

So pulling back to the recent news events that I mentioned above(and I welcome others brought forth as examples of a point, please share a link), who are the people who are part of the story? Are they stories of “saints” and “monsters” who are essentially “black or white” characters with no gray area to them or are they individuals with challenging environments that they navigate and make mistakes(sometimes gravely serious) from their vantage point? Can we easily put ourselves in the other person’s shoes, say, in the case of someone like George Zimmerman? What is his story? What was he taught about at home about who and what he can trust? What pain shaped him into the character that committed this act? …it’s possible that his past has a good deal of sadness and pain to it. Do you know any young folks like Deryl Dedmon, John Aaron Rice and Dylan Butler? Is there something you can do now to assist in them making different decisions as they grow?

I’m not trying to excuse inexcusable actions, mind…I’m just trying to look beyond the emotional response to an act that is easy to engage, and think about we can go about the business of preventing the sadness that come from acts like these by healing ourselves and those around us.

We. Need. To. Trust.


A Year in Review…

So, here we are…A year after this space was carved out for you, I and anyone else who dared to explore the world of the unknown…

Where “What you don’t know that you don’t know” reigns firmly and lovingly. I’ll say for my part that this year has been gorgeous in so many ways, and has also provided serious signs of room for growth. Gorgeous because there was a start, and gorgeous because there really have been some good conversations that at least I was able to have with some of you who I might not have otherwise. I got to hear some views that were different from my own. I got to interview some really fun folks on camera and prepare for more opportunities to engage in similar dialogue with others…Challenging because at the end of the day there are very few things that we can presume to say with too much confidence that we “know”…and not everyone is ready to accept that…

I hope this year brings more. I hope to get to know some folks who visit better as we interact in this strangely intimate yet distant and cold space…

So I ask this of you…what would you want to hear more about? What themes and subjects would you like to see more of here? Anything that we should go deeper into?

I am looking to this New Year dawning to bring forth beautiful fruit, and I pray to keep my sights on my intention and purpose. I thank you for joining me on that path…

Much love…


Family-ship

Originally posted at Nineteen Months:

“If love and agreement are manifest in a single family, that family will advance, become illumined and spiritual; but if enmity and hatred exist within it destruction and dispersion are inevitable…”

It is entirely natural that we human creatures feel the urge, need and desire to connect to each other. From our earliest moments as a species, that feeling had been a necessary part of survival. We have had those other humans that we were born into, and then those that we grew and developed around…all essential to our learning about our special experience in this universe. We have moved through stages of feeling tied to the safeguarding and protection of the family unit, to the tribe, to the state, to the nation and most recently to the level of the world. Many of us may still have doubts and concerns about that last part, because we are still maturing into that stage, and all of us have not been entirely good at playing nice in this global sandbox…all too often it looks like the children’s game “King of the Hill”, but I have no doubts that we’ll get there…

“…This is likewise true of a city. If those who dwell within it manifest a spirit of accord and fellowship it will progress steadily and human conditions become brighter whereas through enmity and strife it will be degraded and its inhabitants scattered. In the same way the people of a nation develop and advance toward civilization and enlightenment through love and accord, and are disintegrated by war and strife…”

Like so many of us who have been thrust into “adulthood”, not really knowing for sure what that means and requires of us, being at the level of …read the rest of this article


A Little More on Race

Greetings all,
I’m normally reluctant to approach a loaded topic that easily becomes divisive, but I do want to open this space up to explore on it…

I will say up front that no conversation on race(among MANY other topics) is complete, and would be poorly served to be concluded with shallow and superficial treatments on what the deeper roots and causes are of the funny part of our collective experience that we call race.

Here’s a small bit from a conversation I had with a friend, where he asked me a pointed question about my experience with race:

Below are a couple of video posts from Jay Smooth which speak very well to some of the nuances around race that we should reflect on: (more…)


The Individual and the Community: A Short Conversation on Race

Tyree lets me talk his ear off on some thoughts I have about race and prejudice…last one with Tyree coming soon!


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