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Cycles of Violence

“During the last six thousand years nations have hated one another, it is now time to stop. War must cease. Let us be united and love one another and await the result. We know the effects of war are bad. So let us try, as an experiment, peace, and if the results of peace are bad, then we can choose if it would be better to go back to the old state of war! Let us in any case make the experiment. If we see that unity brings Light we shall continue it. For six thousand years we have been walking on the left-hand path; let us walk on the right-hand path now. We have passed many centuries in darkness, let us advance towards the light.”
-‘Abdu’l-Bahá

I’ve had a heavy occurrence of conversations about human behavior, and in particular, verbal and physical violence, from snide remarks to open war. As is often the case when I notice such patterns, the vast and weighty trail of atrocities that have occurred over time made me think about their source. Reflection on the topic of human atrocity and its connection to “cycles of violencehas made it a natural and obvious next post. Friends and collaborators have heard me make mention of this concept, and I’ve heard very few arguments to dissuade my feelings that where we are in our social environment, in everything from management systems to conflict resolution to political drama to why some believe that world peace isn’t possible, has something to do with the continued influence of these cycles.

I looked online for any recorded time that we haven’t had a war or conflict going on… found this. Not that I was incredibly surprised, but I think of the introductory quote a whole lot, and find it curious that we don’t even attempt it as a species. We have a painfully long history of war after war and conflict after conflict, with the overt and covert challenges that come with each of these conflagrations. War isn’t by a long shot the only way of perpetuating cycles of violence, but it’s the first example that comes to mind.

In a sense, all of these wars have resulted from a conflict of interest (either a dispute between equals or the strong preying upon the weak), and a perceived lack of resolution in a manner that satisfies all parties involved.

What I want to focus on is this: Common citizens get ordered to go to war. They are exposed to the horrors of war, trained to engage in combat as a meritorious deed. They then carry out those deeds, and are able to return home either killed, wounded or unhurt physically. No one who is engaged in this scenario is the same person that they were before they left home. Over the centuries, some were able to come home with only limited damage emotionally, mentally or physically, but many weren’t so “fortunate”. These folks come home with nightmares, impulses and reactions that the general population has little context for. Some are addicted to drugs. Some are unable to “turn off” the compulsion to react violently to stressful situations. There are countless ways that these folks are affected, and there is still no way to rehabilitate and heal adequately — on a large scale — all of the violence to which they were subjected.

So, when one considers the effects of all of these unresolved issues that countless men and women have experienced, do we think it conceivable that the cycles of violence picked up during any of these conflicts has not seeped into our social environment? This train of thought is just one example of many, and certainly not designed to disrespect those who serve in a military capacity, but I do feel the need to ask us to reflect as a people on the choices we make and their effects… especially if the prevailing logic of the culture is that “war is inevitable”.

Growing up, I was surrounded in some form or another by verbal violence– There was the obvious open yelling, the raising of voices with hand gestures that implied a number of negative potential outcomes, the snappy retorts, the sarcastic tones, the combative body language and postures, etc. I feel that what I described above is not particularly abnormal and, sadly, at present is the norm. Outside my home, I would witness (and experience) physical violence in addition to this verbal violence in my peers, from pushing to hitting to sustained bullying, making me realize that I indeed was not alone.

I’ll be the first to proclaim that I in no way feel unique in these experiences, and I’m not playing the victim… just getting to a point.

In light of the above, I must ask myself: Where did these violent behaviors come from? When did this become the norm in regards to our tone, language and actions? When did it stop surprising us?

If you’ve been struck, how far back can you trace that behavior? Did the assaulter learn that from somewhere else? If you have been a bully or been bullied, how far back can you trace the pain?

6 responses

  1. Michael

    Violence is an inherent part of our evolution and a direct result of how we came to be the society that we are now. Quick and rash decision making that leads to violence, prejudices, and seeing things as with or against one’s own interests allowed some humans to survive over others, and continued over time to make us the violent creatures we are today. It’s unfortunate and needs to be acknowledged so that we can move forward in a world where violence isn’t necessary anymore.

    April 17, 2011 at 8:31 pm

  2. kari

    Hey Oak – WHAT A POST! Amazing. Both of my grandfathers went to war and several uncles/extended family members did as well. It’s amazing how little they would say about their experiences even 40 years afterwards. I interviewed my dad’s cousin, who is now in his 80s and served in Korea. He talked very clearly about he was not himself for a long time after returning. And this guy is a total Wisconsin Scandinavian guy – they are not known for emoting. But, he was so clear about how war changed him for quite some time.

    Oh – you gotta look up “restorative justice” if you haven’t already. This is a program that seeks to intercede in this cycle of violence by giving victims and perpetrators a chance to heal through art and through storytelling. There’s a program at a local high school here that uses restorative justice and they have a 98% success rate – meaning 98% of the kids who go through it do not repeat offend, in any kind of way. Suspensions, on the other hand, have something like a 25% success rate in curbing future incidents.

    The power of storytelling to interrupt the cycle of violence… amazing.

    April 24, 2011 at 11:22 pm

  3. kari

    how come my avatar has glasses and looks so pensive? haha.

    April 24, 2011 at 11:23 pm

  4. On Killing

    May 3, 2011 at 12:52 am

    • Man. Deep response, Malik. What was your process healing from that? Did your response affect others?

      May 3, 2011 at 9:45 pm

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